The neolexia pegging is a term that was popularized in the “Savage Love” column which is regularly featured in the New York Daily News. I’ve always had an interest in this before I even knew what it was called. For those not in the know, pegging is when a woman uses a strap-on dildo to anally penetrate her male partner. If a man enjoys anal penetration from a woman it does NOT make him gay or less of a man. Some guys, like women may just not be comfortable with the feeling of something penetrating their anus. Some simply don’t like or can’t take the pain. But much like everything else in sex, a lot of it is mental.
It’s true, sometimes pegging can be work but it is indeed fun work. There is a sense of control and power you will feel when you slide inside of your male counterpart’s anus. It is also a unique feeling when you put on your harness for the first time and insert the dildo into the hole. It can also bring about a devilish grin knowing that you finally get to do your man the way men often do women. I also find it attractive when a man is that open-minded that he is willing to experiment in this way with me. It’s sexy that he does not want to be the typical man, constantly trying to penetrate me anally, but instead I get to do it to him! It brings us closer and helps us develop a bond that most couples don’t experience. I also believe pegging also creates a mutual respect level between the two involved. As a female it makes me appreciate the work men have to put in to please us with penetration. After using a strap on you truly realize how much work it can be, how you become sore in spots you didn’t even know exist and how after a while you just grow tired. And for a man I believe he can respect how it feels to be on the receiving end of being penetrated and learn that it’s more than just filling a hole. It’s being careful, patient, and loving that will always make any type of sex a better experience.
Pegging also breaks the monotony of traditional sex. Don’t get me wrong, I love traditional sex roles but being a strong alpha female, I find it hot that we get to switch roles. I equate traditional sex and foreplay with having a great meal or a great slice of pizza; sure it’s good but after you’ve had that meal hundreds of times sometimes you want a different taste to liven things up.
If you are strongly interested in pegging, I assume you’ve already used a finger or two on your partner. I don’t suggest using toys on him before anything else. The anus is a very sensitive area so you have to start small. I find it better to first talk to him about doing it and what both of you are comfortable with. It is good to have a safe word so if anything becomes to painful he can tell you when you need to stop. It’s also a good idea to start off slow. You definitely want your toy and him to be well lubed. You can start off by licking his anus, inserting a finger or two, using an anal plug, or the many other toys and devices that are available to make this process easier. Consider that foreplay before the main event, just like you would if the roles were reversed.
When he’s all ready to go, go ahead and insert the tip of your toy into him. See how he reacts and go from there. Read his facial expressions, his body language, ask him what he wants you to do. It’s different for every man. When your artificial dick starts to penetrate him and he feels it against his prostate glands, it can induce some of the most mind blowing orgasms he may ever have. Some men usually stroke themselves as they are being penetrated so a climax is also guaranteed. You can have him lay on his back and stroke him yourself as well. There are nerves in everyone’s anus that lead to sexual pleasure. The trick is to take your time with your partner and find out how to bring about this carnal gratification with as little pain as possible.
Your man will thank you that you introduced him to the world of pegging. He probably wanted it the whole time but never brought it up for the fear of being criticized and labeled a pervert.
There are many sizes, shapes, and variations of dildos you can use for strap-on play. Of course you need to first get a harness that is your proper size and you need to be able to wear it comfortably. One of the best harnesses out there is the Valkyrie Two-Strap harness by Liberator. It is fully adjustable no matter what size you are and hold toys 1.5 - 2” in diameter.
As far as dildos go, I would personally recommend the Tantus brand. Their toys are made with the highest medical grade silicone and have a very bog range to choose from. One of my favorites is the Adam 02. It feels like the real thing!
Oh and one more thing: get the right lube. Maximus Water Based Gel Lube is the most popular choice for anal play. It’s nice and thick in texture and will maximize your experience for sure!
So have fun with it, be safe, and take your man on the ride of his life!
Not saying I recommend the toys or lube mentioned, but the write up on pegging is a good one !